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reniimodisette • February 2, 2022

Wow! Here I am! I am finally posting my blog. My morning walks have brought me to think about middle school, me, and my friends at that time. In middle school, I was a spaghetti girl- not because I liked spaghetti. Instead, I thought it was cool to make a spaghetti gesture. Indeed, I wasn’t at the cool kids’ table. My best friends in the whole world at that time was with three other young ladies who were equally socially awkward.

Rather, my friends and I talked about what we could be and the fantastic things we could do. Now that I think back on it, we had high expectations. Seems like, we didn’t allow fear or inadequacy to deter us from dreaming. Therefore, seeing no limitation for believing in ourselves. Also, I can’t help but wonder when that changed and why did that change? 

Over the years, I’ve forgotten to nurture the dreams of that little girl as a result of my friends. Consequently, adulting can do that, and it’s time to reclaim it. Reclaim the little girl who visualized herself in the mirror as the fly girl in Jordache jeans about to take the world by storm. Let me take a moment to acknowledge that I loved my Jordache jeans! I hung them up without being told and wore them with spice in my step (my mom called it switching). My empowerment task starting right now is always to remember my inner child, love her, lift her, hug her, and wear a good pair of jeans! 

So, I’m asking WHERE MY GIRLS AT? Are you nurturing the gem inside you? Have you hugged yourself today? Will you embrace yourself? Friends- YESSSS! 

I plan to love my inner child as I seek to embrace my vulnerability. I will love her, protect her, and celebrate her. Dream again! Will you? 

To the Spaghetti Girls, Thank you, ladies! Thank you for dreaming with me!

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