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reniimodisette • February 11, 2022

My great escape throughout the mid to late ’80s was through reading and books. Going to the bookmobile. It parked on the side street next to my childhood home each week. My parents set rules. I followed the rules. Consequently, I was allowed to visit the bookmobile every week.

I loved going to pick out my selection of books I planned to read each week. Reading books was my opportunity to step into another world. For a short time, in the story I became the main character for a short time. A great escape.

Even more, at that age, I believed more and judged less. Believed I was capable. Accepted my whole self with no “but if.” However, despite knowing this, I started doubting myself, judging my appearance, and negative self-talk in my early teens or before. I am sure there are many reasons why, but at this moment, the first thought that comes to mind is I wanted to fit in. My outlet was reading and books.

Still, I will continue to protect and acknowledge that little girl that dwells within. Most of all, I would tell her that reading and books will open the door to opportunity. Hence, offering her wisdom in the hope of changing her mindset as she evolves. So here goes: 

  • Laugh more, judge less. 
  • She is good enough.
  • Mistakes and not-so-great decisions are growth opportunities. 
  • Don’t drink 20/20 Mad Dog in college. It’s not worth the hangover.
  • I believe in her.
  • Hug loved ones more. Everyday isn’t promised. 
  • Keep reading
  • Continue to love books

To my daughter, I know you have felt this way on many occasions, but I’m here to tell you that you are enough. Your mistakes don’t define you, and I love you. 

I would love to hear how reading was your great escape and how books contributes to your story of your younger self. 


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