Supportive Community: “Keep elevating, sis!”

Saboteur: “She finished another item on her list to build her business. I need to work harder at reminding her that she can’t make it.”

Sound familiar? Self-sabotage is the inner critic or saboteur whose goal is to remind you of what you can’t do, won’t do, and aren’t capable of being in this life. The inner voice puts you in a box of comfort and then panics when you step out of your comfort zone. It is the mind, subconscious, gravitating to the struggles or life lessons of your past, reminding you that you fought hard to move to the next level, don’t go back.

However, growth in life is change, and it is not stagnant. Comfort is great, but the elevation is fantastic.

My Inner Saboteur

Ironically, my inner saboteur shows up in the early morning hours during my time of reflection. It disrupts my moments to set my intention by clouding me with self-doubt and fear of the unknown. With that in mind, my inner saboteur brought me back to my desire to be a mom that provides for her family at all costs, which for me, now truly focuses on ensuring generational wealth. It brought me back to my innate instinct to survive with my primal desire to feed, clothe, and fight for the best life possible. Although my children are adults, I consider myself their sounding board and a place of safety. But, when self-doubt creeps in, then the self-sabotage hashtag—#satisfaction is used by my saboteur!

In the same way, my saboteur screams at me about the uncertainties associated with entrepreneurship. Subsequently evoking memories with tears of times when I could barely feed my children or pay my light bill. Afterward, the most remarkable thing happened. First, gradually, as the anxiety subsided, then I saw that during those times, I made it even with only just enough. Self-sabotage defeat to my saboteur.

Facing the Saboteur Head-on!



Each time I move forward to the next task as an entrepreneur, my saboteur discovers an avenue. Loudly repeating over and over that I am limited to the type of life I envision for myself. Moreover, in the same tone, it reminds me how much money I didn’t make this month, and the potential ramifications. Nevertheless, a fire ignites within me to grind harder than I did the day before. Ultimately seeking to visualize a successful day fueled with support from my community. A self-sabotage major setback to my saboteur. Then, this happens from my saboteur:

• “How can I distract her from elevating?”Indeed, my saboteur knows when to show up and how to speak to me. My saboteur knows how to tell me what I haven’t accomplished instead of celebrating wins.
• “This dream of yours probably won’t happen.”My saboteur is very clever. You can likely say the same for yours when you recognize it.
• “I worry about you. I want the best for you.”An expression of concern for well-being becomes the running narrative of self-doubt with intermittent thoughts of not continuing. Above all, when this occurs, embrace the sentiment as “I want you to be a success. I love you” and rebuke “I am not enough.” The truth is you are enough, and you have what it takes to do what you need to define success on your terms.

Take a Stand

Again, does this sound familiar?

Unfortunately, it’s a voice that never goes away; nonetheless, I intend to keep moving forward, infusing my mind with anti-positive thoughts while at the same time acknowledging that I’m scared, but I won’t give up! Self-sabotage won’t win today!

These are thoughts I will have to face often. Here are two strategies that I put into practice to empower myself when my saboteur is sitting on my chest like my 16-pound Frenchie, ready to start the day:

– Community of like-minded individuals who encourage me – if you seek a community, feel free to join the Me Time with Mind Escape Vibe private community on Facebook.

– Acknowledging my feelings brings me closer to knowing my saboteur so much that I know what it looks like, the sound of its voice, and the time it will show up.

Most importantly, celebrate what you’ve learned and how far you’ve come! No one has all the answers, and despite Google, it doesn’t mean those are the correct answers for you. (No offense, Google!)

If your struggle with your saboteur but you want to build strategies to shift your mindset during times of its visit, then this is for you. You are not alone. It is time to take inventory your Self-Love Kit! Book a complimentary consultation to learn more about GLADness Self-Love Program. I am rooting for you! Talk soon.