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reniimodisette • March 18, 2022

A conversation with my daughter shifted my thoughts from my initial posting outline, but I feel the topic aligns with Women’s History Month. A decision to avoid a difficult discussions thus affecting mental health may occur due to:

  • Not being ready for the dialogue that will follow
  • Making the final decision

Admittedly, the conversation resonated with me. Granted, when I avoided a conversation, I was not ready for the dialogue. In fact, I was emotionally charged.

Subsequently, an entire conversation occurred in my head. Wrote the cliff notes. Edited the script. Produced the movie. Analyzed every subtle meaning. Just mentally spinning. Most of all, I know mental spinning isn’t the best solution.

Hence, mental empowerment being the better option. Especially since I don’t want to constantly read the cliff notes. I offer myself grace. The grace to not be ready for the conversation. Space too mentally prepare for the dialogue. Extending grace is self-care. Thus, aligning with mental health.

Meanwhile, it stops the mental spin. I am better able to control myself- the response. My reaction with a clear understanding that I can’t control the person’s words. It doesn’t mean I won’t cry. That’s okay. It’s cleansing-putting myself first. Eventually, revisiting the difficult discussion.

While I’ve been on my mental empowerment mission for several years, it isn’t easy. But slow progress is still progress. Mental empowerment is baby steps. I may never run, but if I’m taking baby steps, I’m doing better than I was a year, a month, a week, or a day prior. I am protecting my peace. I can’t give up on myself while waiting to have the difficult discussion.

In conclusion, on the tail end of the third week of Women’s History month, be reminded of the women who faced difficult discussions or decisions head-on. Women setting the foundation for women to have voices. Show love to the women in your family that stand tall when the weight of the conversation despite the decision or situation being so heavy. More importantly, mental health is significant.

Being self-aware is still progress. Growth is multi-dimensional. Build your runway that works for you.

You.are.worth.it.

After all, a whisper can easily become a shout. 


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